Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean I Can Trust You Again

Someone I considered a close friend for a number of years betrayed me a few months ago. In short he came on to my wife of 20+ years behind my back. Needless to say when she told me of what he had done I was infuriated. Had I been a younger man I would more than likely acted out in violence, because honestly I wanted to teach him a lesson. But, instead I just told him what I thought about it and deleted him as a friend from social media and blocked his number.

Well yesterday he sent word through someone else that he wanted to talk to me. So I unblocked his number and took his phone call. He admitted that he was wrong, said he was sorry, that he cared for me and my family, and that the whole ordeal was really hurting him. I didn’t stay on the call very long, but I did accept the apology.

Now I know the Christian thing to do is to forgive him and to the best of my ability I have. But, that doesn’t mean that I trust him any longer or that I will ever be able to again. To be honest I have no desire to trust him or be any semblance of a friend again.

God says to forgive, but I’m not sure that necessarily means to forget and be naive.  I’d love to hear your opinion on the subject.

What do you think?

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